Maintaining Desire and Commitmen...
In my last two posts I described how a therapist must think and behave in order to establish a safe treatment. Today we’re going to turn to the guidance the therapist must provide to help a couple be safe towards each other, although what is stated here must also be in the conceptualization and words of the […]
The Eyes and Ears of the Childre...
I love this image, because it helps me remember who is sitting in front of me in a couples therapy session. The picture could also show two little boys or two little girls–gender doesn’t change the approach. I do better treatment when I am reminded that there are two children here who desperately want me […]
Safety First
The most important element in a successful couples treatment is that the clients feel safe with each other and with the therapist. The emotionally difficult work that they will be called upon to do in treatment cannot happen unless safety is guaranteed. What do I mean by safety? First, the partners must agree to be […]